If you’re a side chick who wants to keep up a relationship with a guy who has a Main, then you have to know the rules of the game. You can’t expect the relationship to be more than what it is: a way for both of you to have a good time and not worry about where the relationship is going. So if you want to be a good side chick, you have to stop stressing out and learn to have a good time with your man — and if you find that you can’t have fun, then you’ve gotta get out.
1.Give him space. Don’t always be the first to text him or seek him out. Give him breathing room. He doesn’t want to have more than one wife/girlfriend/significant other. He already has one of those, and your job is to be something different. You have to be fun, and not get all up in his space. You have a right to do your own thing just as much as he has a right to do his. Go out with your girlfriends. Have a good time. Don’t worry about checking in with him every five minutes or he’ll start to think you want something more.
2.Keep things interesting. When he texts you, keep the conversation interesting. A side chick’s main responsibility is to keep things fun and exciting. Giving him short answers and acting uninterested will make him wish he was playing Words with Friends instead — or even just hanging out with his Main. Tell him funny stories; ask how he’s feeling; surprise him. Do whatever you’ve gotta do to keep things exciting, as long as it feels natural.
3.Refrain from having “The Talk”. Having the “What are we doing? Where is this going?” talk will push him away. You have to know your lane. You’re his side chick; the end. Yeah, some side chicks do end up as mains, but this is much more rare than you may think. If your thing is all about hooking up, then there’s no need to overwhelm your guy with serious conversation. This will lead you to a time out.
*to be continued*