Our resident guy advice guru, T9, breaks down the Top 10 Reasons Why Dudes Fail With Honiez —And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes. Every few days, we will share one of the Top 10 reasons, here’s #4…
MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection with Food and Gifts
How many times have you taken a gal out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn’t treat her even HALF as well as you did? If you’re like me, then you’ve had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It’s only NATURAL when this happens…That’s right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message: “I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection”.
That’s right, and it’s the typically accepted “Dating Frame” that most guys buy into hook, line, and sinker. The fact of the matter is, buying expensive dinner and gifts is a REWARD, not a temptation. You can do that with girls you enjoy being with, because they’ve earned the priviledge of your affection — they know it, and you know it.
Until that time, it comes off as begging. Supplication. It’s you seeking a type of approval from a chiq by “romancing” her. In the meantime, you’re eliminating that necessary tension that needs to exist for attraction. It’s okay to “go out” with a girl, but you don’t need to break the bank or shower her with gifts for her to like you. Sharing some icecream or a soda is fine.