3. He doesn’t listen to you.
If he never pays attention when you talk to him, what’s the point of dating him? He doesn’t need to recall your conversations word for word, but he should put his phone down for a sec (yes, really), listen, and offer thoughtful input. That goes double when you’re stressed or upset. Sure, his eyes might glaze over when you’re obsessing over something for the millionth time, but anyone who is worth your time should take a genuine interest in you and your life. Otherwise, what’s the point?
4. He doesn’t support your goals.
Maybe you ask him to run flashcards before your big test and he says no. Or maybe you talk about your big dreams of running your own company one day and he laughs you off like he doesn’t believe you can do it. That sucks. In the long run, you’ll be happiest and most successful with someone who has total faith in your abilities by your side. If he’s always shooting down your goals, he might just be insecure about his future. But that’s no reason for him to bring you down. Whoever you date should believe in you and support your dreams and ambitions.
5. He pressures you to get physical before you’re ready.
Choosing to hook up or have sex can be a big decision. There’s no reason to rush into it until you’re really ready. The right person will respect you by listening to your boundaries and taking things at a pace you’re both comfortable with.
6. The relationship is all about him.
You hang out at his house when it’s convenient for his schedule and get pizza because it’s his favorite food. And while that’s totally cool once in awhile, relationships are about give and take. If he can’t give let you choose what to watch or talk about what’s on your mind every once in awhile, he’s way more into himself than he’s into you. You deserve someone who thinks you’re bomb and makes you feel special.
7. He never compliments you.
Even shy or stoic guys can open up every once in awhile to say nobody makes him laugh like you do, or that you look like a freaking supermodel in that dress.
8. He doesn’t try to get along with your friends or family.
Your BF doesn’t have to be besties with your besties, but he should make a serious effort to get along with the people who are important to you. And if your friends and family don’t have heart-eyes for him, they might be picking up on red flags that you’re too smitten to see.
9. You can’t talk to your friends about him anymore because they keep telling you he sucks.
Chatting with friends should be fun and easy. If you’re doing mental gymnastics to avoid dropping your boyfriend’s name and incurring the wrath of your friends’ haterade, that’s a huge red flag. Unless they’re jealous monsters, they aren’t randomly hating on your boyf just to hate on him. They know you deserve way better (and wish you knew that, too).