As one gets older, it becomes harder and harder to be attracted to someone simply because of the way they look. With age it is claimed one is wiser. I agree to some extent. Adults do have a lot of experience and often their guidance-in terms of human interaction and reading character is rarely wrong. However, more often the same cannot be said for their tech savvy side. Anyway, older people seem to care more about a relationship’s potential longevity, rather than just instant sexual gratification. I think, with age, people are more acutely aware of the impermanence of beauty after experiencing their own signs of aging.
Perhaps they have realized that dating freakishly beautiful people isn’t all it’s cracked up to be!! Here are six reasons why;
1. Everyone wants them
A friend once told me, “It’s always best to date attractive guys, but not so attractive that everyone’s constantly trying to get them, because that’s just stressful.” While some people feel very proud to have a hottie on their arm, others are more comfortable having the upper hand in the beauty department. While I’m drawn to extremely beautiful people, I more often want to just stare at them or hang an oil painting of them on my wall rather than date them. But I’ve also wondered if, deep down, I’m just intimidated by the idea of dating someone hotter than me.
2. Others do not respect boundaries
What’s annoying is that when you’re with a really hot guy, other girls have no qualms about coming up and hitting on him right in front of you. Or girls will turn and blatantly stare at your boyfriend in the street. At certain times that can be a confidence boost, but it’s hard to deal with on a daily basis, especially when you don’t 100 percent trust the person you’re dating.
3. Less Faithful
This is up for debate, but it has often been claimed that the really gorgeous among us cheat a lot. When you have so many people throwing themselves at you, you’re spoiled for choice, so there’s less incentive to be faithful. Not to mention that people get away with so much more when they’re attractive. And that’s not just true of relationships; it’s true of life in general. It’s a widely documented psychological phenomenon that good-looking people are perceived by others as being better people overall—as being nicer, more intelligent, better at their jobs, and yes, better to date.
4. Cannot form good, honest relationships
When you’re considered extremely good-looking, people are constantly telling you that you’re beautiful, but those people usually want something from you, as such the gorgeous learn to create walls to protect themselves. You’re surrounded by ingenuine people, and therefore lack the knowledge of how to form good, honest relationships.
Because of all the attention, beautiful people often become obsessed with how other people perceive them, which can ultimately lead to a pronounced insecurity. They just constantly need validation. They may take a bajillion selfies, always worrying about their looks. Then after they post these on social media, follow up on how many responses they have received on the post.
6. Low Intelligence levels
This is very debatable, however, ‘the blonde’ is a clear representation of this. She is a trophy woman, but once her mouth is open it is as if all the beauty disappears in her words. When I was younger, I could see a photograph of a guy and fall in love with him, but now, even when I find someone extremely attractive, I’m indifferent to act on it unless I’m also attracted to them intellectually and emotionally—they have to still be hot when they open their mouth, basically. As I get older, I naturally want to be with someone who can do more than look pretty in a picture.
As we grow up and become more dynamic, intelligent people, we expect the same from our partners. That’s not to say that beauty doesn’t matter—sexual attraction in a romantic relationship is clearly vital. But if a superficial quality is the focal point of your relationship, or the source of what binds, that’s a bad sign. If I’m ever feeling particularly superficial, I just think of this quote from Andy Warhol, which pretty perfectly sums up my idea of beauty: “I really don’t care that much about ‘Beauties.’ What I really like are Talkers. To me, good talkers are beautiful because good talk is what I love. . . . Talkers are doing something. Beauties are being something. Which isn’t necessarily bad, it’s just that I don’t know what it is they’re being. It’s more fun to be with people who are doing things.”
By Karley Sciortino, writer for the ‘Slutever’ blog